Schopenhauer had a very incisive comment on socializing and solitude. He said: ” Living in a social crowd necessarily requires people to accommodate and tolerate each other. Therefore, the bigger the party, the more likely it is to become boring. Only when a person is alone can he become himself completely. If anyone does not love solitude, then he does not love freedom, because only when one is alone, he is free. Formality and constraint inevitably accompany social gatherings. ” He also said an interesting sentence: ” The upper class needs to become mediocre to attend social gatherings.”
In high school, I met a Chinese teacher, Mr. Li Tiecheng. After he returned to Zhengzhou in 1981, we had not met for 20 years. I had the opportunity to go to Zhengzhou on business. I asked Zhengzhou’s friends to help me find him and finally met him in Zhengzhou. Twenty years later, I saw a teacher with rich hair. In a very ordinary and simple study, he wrote the world-renowned masterpiece New Tao Te Ching, which is praised as the most incisive exposition of life issues since the May 4th Movement. With his painstaking efforts, he made masterpieces such as Sacrifice to Emperor Yan, Monument to Emperor Xuanyuan, Monument to Confucius, etc. As the teacher said: ” I am a lonely person, I am always lonely, but I am an independent thinker”. When I came back from Zhengzhou, I was immersed in the conversation with my teacher. I looked at the poems and poems sent by my teacher again. I recalled the teacher’s indifference to material life. I understood more and more that character and realm are enriched by inner thoughts.