It turns out that this is the law of breaking windows.

People, once they indulge themselves for the first time, there will be countless times in the future.

I believe that in your life, you certainly have such experiences.

Before going to bed at night, you pick up your cell phone and say to yourself, just play for a few minutes, and it turns out to be hours.

At the banquet, a friend gave you a round of vomiting – inducing toasts, but you couldn’t refuse, saying that only one drink resulted in a second and third cup, and finally you almost got drunk and returned.

When you went shopping with your friends, you were going to buy nothing. As a result, the clerk recommended you an eyebrow pencil. Finally, you almost bought a whole set of cosmetics to go home.

Many things, like this, once there is the first breakthrough, the result will be out of control.

Once heard a story.

It is about a child who stole something for the first time when he was a child and stole a needle. His mother thought it was just a needle, so she did not blame him, so she had to steal things again and again.

Later, when he grew up, he stole gold, was put in jail and sentenced to death.

He cried at his mother on the execution ground: If you had severely punished me when I stole the needle for the first time, I would not have died today.

As the saying goes, a thousand-mile embankment destroys an ant nest. If the initial small temptation, small compromise, and small faults do not attract our attention, it will eventually become the culprit that destroys us.

As Milan Kundera said, the first betrayal will inevitably lead to more betrayals, as a chain reaction keeps us further away from the first betrayal.

People, once they indulge themselves for the first time, there will be countless times in the future.

In life, many of us are talking about persistence, but few of us really insist on it.

Why is this?

The writer Haruki Murakami started running in the autumn of 1982 and has persisted for decades. How did he do it?

Those who have insisted on running will encounter this situation: today is too busy to run. Today is too tired, run again tomorrow, today is in a bad mood, don’t want to run ……

When there is an excuse for the first time, let oneself give up persistence, in the end, often give up persistence itself.

But Haruki Murakami is different. He said: ” I want to run because I don’t want to run.”

Since he has never been ” lazy”, he has persisted to this day.

It’s really hard to stick to one thing and stick to it, because we always find reasons for ourselves when we don’t want to do it, so that we can be in a relaxed and comfortable state.

However, even if it is difficult to stick to one thing, don’t let yourself have the first thought of giving up, because giving up once is easier for the second time.

Psychologist Philip Sinbad of Stanford University conducted an experiment in 1969.

He found two identical cars, one parked in the middle-class community of Palo Alto, California, and the other in the relatively cluttered Bronx district of new york.

The car parked in the Bronx, he took off the license plate and opened the roof, and was stolen that day.

The one in Palo Alto was ignored for a week.

Later, Sinbad knocked a big hole in the car’s glass with a hammer.

As a result, it disappeared after only a few hours.

On the basis of this experiment, political scientist Wilson and criminologist Karen put forward a ” broken window effect”:

If the window of a house is broken and no one repairs it, the other windows will be broken for no reason soon.

If some graffiti appears on one wall and is not cleaned, the wall will soon be full of clutter and unsightly things.

In a very clean place, people will be embarrassed to throw rubbish, but once there is rubbish on the ground, people will not hesitate to throw rubbish everywhere without any shame.

This is the performance of ” broken window theory”.

People will try their best to protect good things, and once the good things have bad marks, people will consciously let them become worse.

Making a good thing worse is often caused by a seemingly small act.

It’s like being late for the first time, not being punished, then getting into the habit of being late, lowering your requirements for the first time, and finally becoming not demanding for yourself. ……

Therefore, do not give yourself the first chance to indulge yourself and do not break your first window.

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