Do you chat with your child every day? Have you ever felt the warmth and satisfaction of opening up with your child before going to bed? According to one survey, children who chat with their parents before going to bed every day have a much greater language ability than their peers.
1. Chatting before going to bed is better than reading countless
Most people think that bedtime is the best time to read, but a recent survey by the University of California shows that past experience is not entirely correct. The researchers selected 275 families of children and took the stage of 0 to 4 years old, which lasted for 4 years. Finally, the researchers judge the child’s language ability score by talking to the child. It was found that the children who chatted before bed had a much higher score than the children who passively listened to the parents. The results also show that even “parents speak to children unilaterally” can help improve their language skills. Parents should repeatedly read the story of the picture book for the child, the child can remember, and then fully understand the meaning of the picture book story. This is an absorption process. Each child is an independent individual. The duration of absorbing “nutrients” varies greatly. Chat is different. It is a kind of mutual communication. Happy chat can make children have easy access to knowledge and opportunities to express their emotions.
2. Don’t say you won’t chat, listen first.
As a parent, how do you play the dual role of a listener and a spokesperson?
Before going to sleep, parents should learn to be a “listener.” Use the guiding words to let the child speak first: “What happy things are there today?” “What new things did the teacher teach today?” “Did you play any new games today?”
Remember, to mention less complicated problems, the first step to chatting with your child is to let the child express himself. In the process of chatting, not only can the child’s appeal be heard, but also the trust of the parents in the child’s heart. Of course, learning to “ask” is only the first step, and in the second step we will also “talk”.
3. The secret of chatting – intention
Chatting with your child, maybe you are not interested in what the child is saying, but don’t show an impatient look. When the child is not happy, ask the parents to talk, for example, if the child meets the teacher’s criticism in the kindergarten, then he will definitely come back to tell the parents what has been criticized by the teacher in the kindergarten today. Parents need to understand the reasons why children are criticized. If it is true that the child is doing something wrong, parents should use the rhetorical language “If your friend is like this, do you think the teacher will criticize?” to educate the child. Let the children learn to change their minds in the chat and understand their mistakes, the child will be more sensible. Whether it is doing something wrong or being wronged, when the child is not happy, the first thing parents should do is to appease the child and then guide. When your child is happy, talk to your parents and sometimes you will find that they are really easy to meet. “Catch a small snail in the park” “Grandma took me to the slide” “Student sent me a candy” and other small things can make them happy for a day. At first, parents may not feel their happiness, but when parents develop the habit of chatting with their children before going to bed, they will gradually be infected by their emotions. Perhaps the dissatisfaction and troubles of the day will also be affected by the children. Happy things dilute.
Many times, parents don’t have to rush to talk about the child’s careful thinking, just slowly guide the child to express themselves. Chatting before bedtime is a trivial matter for adults, but it is a good thing for parents to share with their parents. 20 minutes before going to bed every day, give your child a moment to talk and give yourself a chance to be closer to the child.