Say goodbye is easy, see again is hard

  British essayist Max Bilbom wrote an article “Farewell”, saying that seeing off is a very embarrassing thing. At the farewell banquet the previous night, everyone had said everything that should be said and expressed their feelings. The next day they had to go to the station to see the farewell. The train was not coming for a long time, so they searched their stomachs for topics. When there is nothing to ask for, the atmosphere becomes awkward. For this reason, there are courses dedicated to teaching farewell techniques, just like teaching acting, letting people learn how to pretend to be passionate.
  What Billbom ridiculed was the hypocrisy of etiquette and the vanity of people, but there are indeed such problems in life. In my opinion, the most embarrassing thing is that I met an acquaintance on the street and said goodbye to each other after a while. After a while, I met on the next street. Then I had to say hello and say goodbye. I really wish I could do it. An invisible person.
  Some people say that “goodbye” means never seeing each other again, which really makes sense. If they meet again within a short time after saying “goodbye”, it will be a little unnatural for both parties to get over.
  Gathering and parting are a set of dialectical relationships. Only when there are differences can there be gatherings and when there are gatherings to distinguish differences, it is difficult for them to circulate for a long time. Sometimes they only happen once-after a parting, it is difficult to see each other again. In the movie, only one of the farewell and reunion can be the main feature, either focusing on the farewell or the meeting. When the director deliberately plays up the parting atmosphere, it means that the characters will never be seen again.
  The old and new
  we all like to get together, fear of parting. Gathering is a line. From being connected to finally coming together, it is a process of getting closer to each other, and there will be surprises; and parting is a point, which separates in an instant, and then gets farther and farther away. It hurts people. .
  At the beginning of Xia Gang’s movie “Da Sa Ba”, Gu Yan, played by Ge You, sent his wife to study in Canada at the airport. His wife seemed very excited, without the slightest feeling of nostalgia. Gu Yan was very calm, even worried. This emotional contrast foreshadows the subsequent result: soon after his wife settled in a foreign country, he sent back a divorce agreement to Gu Yan. The farewell this time, in Gu Yan’s words, is: “When you leave, you will be a meat bun hitting a dog.”
  This result can also be seen by comparing their images: the husband is plainly dressed and wearing a rustic hat. The face is miserable; the wife is bright, fashionable and beautiful, with a charming face. Although they hug and kiss goodbye, they always feel like they don’t match. When the husband walked up to the second floor and waved goodbye to his wife, the wife disappeared into the crowd without looking back.
  The movie takes the airport farewell as the first scene, which means the end of a relationship and the arrival of another relationship. Just like a flying plane, the people you meet and those you lose have a fixed trajectory. Although Gu Yan sent away his wife, she met Lin Zhouyun (Xu Fan) who had just sent her husband away at the airport. After their respective families broke up, the two of them came together.
  If there is no complete farewell, there will be no new reunion. Here, farewell is not only a farewell to a person, but also a farewell to a relationship and a psychological state. Most of the time love occurs by gathering together, but sometimes separation is also an important element. When two people feel that they are not suitable for each other and get tired to get along, there is no need to tie them together. It is better to say “goodbye” at the right time. The worst situation in the relationship between men and women is that they are broken.
  Farewell is indeed a science, dare to send away the old, how to send the old away, these are all testing a person’s emotional intelligence. Although we often say that “the ones who should go will always go, and those who should come will always come”, the time cost of such passive waiting is too high. Sometimes, it is the best way to break and break. This is not called unfeeling, but respect for affection.
  Turn around and stare
  It’s because I can’t see you again that the last sight is so important. This is an important method used by the film to sensationalize. The desire to suppress and promote first creates a gap in the audience’s emotions. In Fang Yuping’s “Father and Son Love”, in order to let the only son in the family go to college, the father married the eldest daughter to many older bosses, and asked the younger daughter to give up school and switch to work. The rebellious son finally decided to study abroad, and the family sent him to the airport. Before leaving, he suddenly turned around and gave his father a affectionate hug.
  For a long time before this, the son and the father were in a confrontation and did not understand each other. The father single-handedly destroyed his son’s dream of making movies, and his son has always resisted his father’s desire to study at ease. Because of their hostile relationship, the hug at the farewell time seemed precious.
  The movie uses a vulgar but most suitable method here. The son first walks a few steps forward slowly, then he turns around thoughtfully, and quickly walks to his father, holding his father and shouting “Dad” , And the background music also raises the tone. This is a classic “look back and look” lens, the contradiction between father and son disappears with this embrace. When the son finished his studies and was about to return, his father was so excited that he had a heart attack and passed away. This farewell became their last meeting. If they could still meet, the director would not make this farewell so grand.
  The saddest parting I have ever seen was in the martial arts film “Flying Dance”, the arrogant killer Zixialang was framed by the enemy and was drugged. Lizhen, who had a crush on him, used her body to detoxify him. However, Zixialang had been in love with the general’s daughter Shirley, and didn’t care about Lizhen, who dedicated her life to him, and was anxious to leave after waking up. He staggered forward along the wall, and she followed behind to remind him not to use internal force immediately. When he disappeared into the corner, she couldn’t hold it anymore, and fell to the ground, with blood flowing from the corner of her mouth, her eyes lonely and sad, and a wry smile on her face.
  The unfeeling red killer, the infatuated blue girl, a white wall makes their parting farewell. The full of love turned into the last stare, and the harvest was just a back figure that didn’t turn around.
  It’s actually very easy to make the audience cry. It is to make the people in the movie cry first, and attack the audience’s psychological defense with the sad image. “Flying Dance” makes good use of the semi-enclosed composition formed by the wall here. When one person walks out of the picture, the other person falls lonely. The wall is not only a support for her body, but also a barrier that hinders her vision.
  When Jing Ke sang “The wind is cold and the water is cold, and the strong men go and never return”, it laid the sad tone of farewell. Today, this artistic language is still continuing. Therefore, in your life, don’t make the farewell atmosphere too sad, it is likely that the prediction will come true. Say goodbye unrestrainedly, maybe we can see each other again.
  Meaningful farewell
  in the movie, in most cases, when people bid farewell never know what will happen in the future. But sometimes, the farewell will clearly indicate what will happen next. This kind of farewell is meaningful and purposeful.
  In “The Godfather 2”, the second brother Fredo was bought by a hostile gang and participated in the assassination of his younger brother, which made his younger brother Michael very angry. At the lively ball, Michael slowly turned to Fredo, hugged him tightly, gave him a hard kiss, and said cruelly: “I know it is you, Fredo, you broke my heart. “This unusual behavior implies that Michael has moved to get rid of Fredo’s heart.
  Later, at a family gathering, Michael came out to meet with Fredo under the persuasion of his sister, and put Fredo’s head in his arms. Only Michael’s serious face was shown on the screen. Although he was thinking about brotherhood, the killing intent did not fade. This was the last time the brothers met. Michael let his men accompany Fredo on the boat and drove them to the center of the lake. At the moment the gun shot, Michael, who was standing in front of the window, lowered his head, both guilty and helpless.
  Killing the brother is an important plot of the film, which not only means that someone is cruel, but only killing can show the cruelty of the rivers and lakes. This is also the pain of the godfather who is in a high position, he can’t enjoy the joy of family affection of ordinary people.
  There is also a deliberate farewell plot in the red classic film “Living Eternally in the Fire”. Sister Jiang is going to the mountain area to guide her work, and Zhigao went to the dock to see him off. Sister Jiang found that he was carrying the suitcase by himself, and she reminded him that people in suits could not do this. It would attract the attention of the spies, but Zhigao didn’t care. This plot gave the audience a message: Fu Zhigao’s revolutionary vigilance is particularly low, and he is not a trustworthy person. Later, he was discovered by the secret agents because he didn’t pay attention to concealment, and he rebelled against the revolution after being arrested. After that, when he went to see Sister Jiang again, it was not to get together, but to arrest her with special agents.
  Seeing off at the dock became a turning point in the fate of the characters in the movie. This parting also meant that the two had parted ways in their revolutionary beliefs. A lot of small information is often hidden in the plot of a movie. It seems unintentional, but in fact it is intentional. It will be very interesting to have a careful aftertaste.
  There is no farewell without meeting, and after the farewell, it is difficult to say whether we can meet again.
  Sometimes people don’t want to meet again, sometimes it’s fate that prevents them from meeting again-both are tragedies and unavoidable things.
  A century ago, the great talent Li Shutong wrote a “Farewell” poem: “The end of the sky, the corner of the earth, the acquaintances are scattered. Life is rare to be together, only parting.” A century later, singer Pu Shu sang on stage. At the time of this song, I couldn’t cry. Is it because he often partes with people? Not necessarily. Maybe he realized that the keynote of life lies in difference.
  There is a line in Jia Zhangke’s “Old People of Mountains and Rivers”: “Everyone can only accompany you for a while.” In fact, everyone can only accompany themselves for a while. We are always seeing off others and our past self. I just hope that the new self still has the heart of a teenager.