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Thoughts on Can and Can’t Transpose

  When I met a very strange question, someone asked me: Is empathy not an excuse for others?
   I guess what he wants to express is that empathy is to make excuses for others, but it is more powerful to wrap it in a rhetorical tone. The word “Did” has become too popular on the Chinese Internet, and I personally recommend using it sparingly, especially in sentences like “Is it just me…”.
   Besides being abused, Chinese also has the problem of corruption. For example, “empathy”, in many cases, it cannot be understood literally, but is used as “consideration” and “understanding”. But it is estimated that “consideration” and “understanding” are not high-end enough, and it is better to “empathize” to be more serious and serious. This is the corrosion of words. “Consideration” and “forgiveness” are to clearly put forward requirements and instruct others how to do it, while “empathy” is much more neutral and gentle, it seems that the other party thinks out the result by himself, which is the corruption of words.
   When you invite a friend to dinner, it is natural to think about the other person’s favorite food. When three people are fighting against landlords, everyone is thinking in different positions, thinking about what the other two will be; if a businessman wants to provide a new product to the market, he must also think from the perspective of the customer, whether the user can accept it or not. , if you can accept it, which one is the most important? When I write an article, I need to stand in the reader’s point of view, thinking about how to make it easier for them to understand and accept it.
   It’s odd that no one would say “empathy” at a time like this. You are just choosing restaurants for your friends, you are just calculating your opponent’s cards, you are just trying to figure out what the customer thinks, and I’m just thinking about how to write an article. This is our daily life, this is our daily behavior, there is nothing special about it.
   When people make a special trip to say these four words, there is usually trouble: husband and wife quarrel, children rebellion, leader and employee confrontation, individual group conflict. Then the ranks of the two sides are inconsistent, and there are always highs and lows between each other, and they are obviously inferior. The last four words are often said to the low-level party, asking him and the high-level party to think differently, but the opposite is rarely the case.
   If empathy works, it’s actually pretty simple. When you are fighting landlords, you accuse your opponent of having a problem with playing cards. The opponent only needs to show his cards and ask: Then how do you think this card should be played? The empathy is over, either you are really stupid, or you really have no choice. You understand his choice, frustrated but no longer angry.
   Once the words “transposition thinking” are uttered, it means that it is not feasible at this time and cannot be transposed. Your immediate boss wants to rate you as the last place in the assessment and put you on the final elimination list. How do you change positions? How to think? Thinking that the mortgage of the boss’s villa has not been paid off, and the children have to pay 200,000 tuition fees every year to go to aristocratic schools, so there can be no problems with work performance? Sacrifice one of me to make his family happy? There is no such thing.
   Personally, the most vigilant thing about transpositional thinking is that once it is proposed, it is an omen: it is not the position of each other that is changed, but the proposition. When I was in college, there were eight people in a dormitory. Even in the summer when the temperature was close to 40 degrees Celsius, the lights were turned off at 11 o’clock in the evening, and the small fan I bought was useless under the mosquito net. Then I will definitely ask the school to continue the power supply after 11:00 pm, and the school will definitely ask me to think in a different position. What if the students continue to supply power and make a late night snack and a fire occurs? What if there is a conflict between students who continue to supply power because of turning on and off the lights? Ask me to empathize with the difficulty of their management.
   You see, the original proposition was: summer nights are so hot that I need an electric fan to cool it down. Through empathy, I became responsible for the fire in the dormitory building and the beating of the students by blowing an electric fan. Why am I responsible? I am the one who pays the dormitory management fee, not the one who collects the dormitory management fee. Why should I switch positions? I can’t possibly have those resources, how can I imagine how I’ll use those resources? Before empathy, I felt hot. In empathy, I still feel hot and need to endure it. And no matter the front or the back, the school does not have to do anything – this is the biggest mystery of empathy.
   Both words and words can become spells. Anything that can be done need not be said. Anything that needs to be said is mostly difficult to do. The secret of the four words “empathy” is that it is rarely proposed by the weaker party, and the proposal may not necessarily get a response. Whenever it appears as a word, it means that there is a weaker party that needs to endure, bear or sacrifice.

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