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Japanese modern housewife

  In Japan, where economy, culture, technology and other aspects are very developed, there are still many women who are “housewives”. Japan ranks among the best in the world in terms of life expectancy, education, and income, but women’s social employment rate and participation are considered the lowest among developed countries.
  Under the alternation of historical, social, cultural and other factors, the “housewife” in Japan has become a type of occupation in the society. The society generally believes that the housework and child-rearing work performed by housewives are also labor with economic value. . Therefore, there is a Japanese term called “professional housewife”, which is more clear: housewife is also a profession, and like any other profession, there is no distinction between high and low. In Japan, “housewife” is the most desirable occupation for women. If you ask Japanese high school and college girls: “What is your future ambition?” They can say calmly in public: “I will be a housewife and a good mother in the future.” Even kindergarten children are on TV cameras Before, also said in a milky voice: “My dream is to put on a wedding dress, become a bride, and become a good daughter-in-law.” There is also a word in Japanese called “shou tui club”, which means that a woman quits her job at the same time when she gets married. In Japan, it is very common or natural for women who graduated from prestigious schools to quit their jobs after marriage or pregnancy. In an authoritative survey in 2009, 36.6% of the 20-30-year-old age group voted in favor of the view that “the husband should work outside the home and the wife should protect the family”, which is the largest ever, and more than 40% Age range from 50 years old to 50 years old and above. This shows that the “housewife volunteers” of the younger generation of Japanese women are not weakened, but strengthened. The reasons for this are manifold. First of all, the economic background is that Japan’s salary level is high, and one person’s salary is enough to support a family; second, Japan is still a country where men are superior to women, and Japanese society is still a male-dominated society; of course, there are policies and systems to protect For example, Japanese companies subsidize married male employees 20,000 yen (approximately equivalent to 1,500 yuan) a “family allowance” every month, and the cost of women giving birth to children is fully reimbursed by the state, and families with children can also receive monthly payments from the government. Receiving “nursery fees” can reflect the recognition and support of the whole society for housewives. So, what is the living state of Japanese housewives, and what characteristics do they have?
  
  Going to university, or even going to a famous university, is to better support your husband and children in the future.
  
  Japan ‘s emphasis on education and the high level of education of the Japanese people are famous all over the world. Therefore, Japanese housewives are generally highly educated, and the minimum is a “short college” graduation, which is equivalent to a Chinese college. To marry a good man and become a good housewife, a higher education is a must. Some Japanese girls start working as housewives after graduating from university, and some enter the workplace after graduating from university, but no matter how good her job is, before she gets married or has a child, she will quit her job and go home to be a full-time wife with peace of mind. In the past two years, there have been some changes in Japanese society in this regard, but the mainstream has not changed. For example, for the Waseda University that the author studied in Japan, it is no less difficult for Japanese students to be admitted to this university than for Chinese students to be admitted to Peking University and Tsinghua University. Many girls, after more than ten years of hard study in the cold window, after countless tests and big exams, finally got their wish and became a member of the early college. I thought they would have a career after graduation, or at least keep working. But what I didn’t expect was that many girls in my class got married as soon as they graduated, and soon quit their jobs and became housewives. In their words: “The reason why I was admitted to a famous university is to improve my self-cultivation. Otherwise, if my education level is not high or my grades are mediocre, how can I help my husband in the future? How can I raise my children?” Many of the section chiefs, ministers, and general managers’ wives or professors’ wives that I saw in Japan were all from prestigious schools. They were extremely elegant in their dealings with others, extraordinary in conversation and manners, and had a high appreciation of art and literature. My advisor during graduate school and his wife were classmates who graduated from Waseda University. After the two got married, the wife has been running the housework and raising the children at home. I’m very surprised why she doesn’t go out to work? She said, one is because the professor is obsessed with research and needs someone to take care of her in life, and even if she goes out to work, women are mostly engaged in simple tasks such as entertaining, cleaning, copying, etc., and they don’t get much opportunity for advancement. This may be one of the reasons why many women choose to return to their families.
  
  Smart housewife: financial management, thrift and housekeeping
  
  Being a good housewife is not an easy task. They are not only good helpers to their husbands, but also shrewd investors. Japan is one of the countries with the highest consumption in the world, but almost all Japanese housewives are masters of frugality. According to reports, the average annual income of each family in Japan is about 5 million yen. Of course, this includes bonuses twice a year. Generally, the average monthly salary after deducting taxes and insurance premiums is about 300,000 yen (about 22,000 yen). RMB up and down). The husband’s salary is remitted to the bank account every month, and the bank card is in the possession of the wife. After deducting the housing and car loans every month, how to make good use of the remaining small amount of money without running a deficit is a must for Japanese housewives. correct real problem. How to make meals reasonably nutritious and delicious, how to take care of the clothing expenses of husband and children throughout the year, how to let the family enjoy the fun of vacation travel during the New Year holidays, and control expenses at the same time. Japanese housewives take great pains. Therefore, the advertisements sent in the newspapers every day have become “must read” for housewives. Which supermarket is offering promotions, which department store offers discounts on clothes, etc., so that they can see clearly. On that day, it’s guaranteed to see the housewives who come to shop blocking the door of the store.
  In Japan, supermarkets will dispose of some soon-to-expire food or fresh food every day from 5:00 pm to before closing, because these foods cannot be sold the next day. Every housewife knows how supermarkets do this, so from the afternoon to about 8 pm, there will be many people walking around the food counter in the supermarket, and when the salesperson puts a new discount label on the food, they will start a Stolen and empty. They use the dishes bought at a discount from the supermarket to make exquisite “Love Bento”. The “wife-loving” bento prepared for the husband and the bento for the children are a good time to show the cooking skills of a good wife and good mother in front of the husband’s colleagues and children’s classmates.
  Some common sense of frugality will continue to be played on TV: for example, how to save water, electricity, gas, how to make use of unused items, turn waste into treasure, etc., to name a few. And most housewives will be willing to follow suit, or communicate with other housewives to learn about housekeeping, which really reflects the Japanese people’s serious and meticulous national characteristics. Japanese housewives have a thick and beautifully printed “household book” bought from a stationery store, which is equivalent to a family income and expenditure record book. Listed, the housewives just need to record it every day, which is very convenient. Now Japan has also developed software to record household income and expenditure, which can automatically calculate, count, and compare, which is more convenient and convenient.
  Housewives use the money they save from living expenses to invest in their households and manage their finances. Their investment and financial management is mainly based on the purchase of stocks, funds, foreign exchange and so on. In Japan, many of the regular customers of banks and securities companies are women. One of the reasons why women play an important role in financial investment is, of course, because housewives have more time at their disposal, and also because Japanese housewives have the right to decide on family investments. , If you go back to the Edo period, the main responsibility of the shogun’s wife is to manage the affairs of the family. The same is true today. In many families, things like buying a house and investing are decided by the housewife. The so-called male lead outside, female lead inside, the husbands seem to decide the “big things” of the family, but the more practical problems are controlled by the housewife.
  
  Continue to enrich themselves and manage their lives.
  
  Many housewives hold positions in Japan’s regional organizations, the Town Council (equivalent to community organizations). These positions are voluntary, and their main job is to help maintain community safety, environmental hygiene, and provide community residents with various services. help etc. For example, teaching Japanese regularly to foreigners near where they live is one of the jobs of these housewives volunteers. In addition, some housewives have parent-teacher meetings at school
(PTA) Volunteer, assist teachers to read books for children, or organize children to learn piano, dance, etc., to prepare for various commemorative activities in the area. It can be said that although Japanese housewives do not have jobs, because they have a lot of time to do what they want to do, it can be said that the social scope is wider, and there is no sign of being out of touch with society at all. In addition to the above-mentioned social activities, their own spare time life is also colorful. Participating in tennis clubs, mountaineering clubs, learning musical instruments, arranging flowers, making cakes, etc., although it is a hobby, but it can be said that every activity is very formal, and sometimes participate in competitions, exhibitions, charity sales, etc.
  When I first arrived in Japan, I went to a Japanese home twice a week to learn Japanese. This teacher is a housewife. She graduated from a music university in Japan, and later went to the United States to study. In addition to music, the teacher has a wide range of interests and hobbies, because the teacher’s father is a famous Japanese poet and calligrapher, so the teacher She likes to write haiku and draw pictures since she was a child. She also likes to get close to nature very much. Every year she travels to various places. She grows a lot of flowers, trees and vegetables in her small yard. She also likes sports, such as mountain climbing, skiing, tennis and swimming. , everything is omnipotent, her face is always filled with a kind and bright smile, you can feel that she is a person who loves life from the bottom of her heart and is active in life. In Japan, I have also seen many housewives like teachers. Although they have different experiences and family environments, I can feel their optimism, forbearance, dedication to their families, but never lose themselves.
  
  Wise education expert
  
  Although the birth rate in Japan has increased after 2006, the overall trend of declining birthrate is still obvious. At present, the average number of children born to Japanese women in their lifetime is 137, but there are still quite a few families with 2, 3 or more children. In Japan, children are usually brought up by their mothers after birth, and elders such as grandmothers and grandmothers rarely participate in raising children. big difference. Of course, this is related to the status quo that my country is dominated by dual-earner families. From the traditional Japanese concept of family and education, children become independent after they get married, and everything has to be solved by themselves, especially raising children, but also doing it yourself, and parents will not interfere too much. Japanese families rarely employ nanny (housekeeping staff), and the least developed industry in Japan is the nanny industry. One is hard to find, and the other is expensive. Therefore, it is often seen in public places that a young mother is carrying a baby on her back and a toddler is sitting in a stroller in her hand. Please imagine a scenario: a mother carries her child while doing housework such as grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, cleaning, and maybe even taking care of another older child. What a hard day it must be. . It can be said that the industrious and hard-working spirit of Japanese mothers has also played a certain role in the education of their children.
  In general, Japanese housewives never spoil their children. The author once saw a two or three-year-old child fall and cry, while the mother was standing beside him, without any intention of helping him up. He just said calmly, “Stand up by yourself!” The child was still crying and didn’t get up, probably because he wanted to be hugged by his mother, but the mother had already walked forward on his own. behind mom.
  In order to improve the child’s physical fitness and exercise will, Japanese mothers will take some “cruel” methods: in the cold winter, the mother will let the child run on the playground topless and wearing shorts. Some mothers let their children take cold baths at home. Most mothers ask their children to do household chores, such as cooking, cleaning the room, shopping, etc. When the children go to school, Japanese mothers never pick them up. When the children go out, they carry the bags by themselves. Japanese mothers will consciously provide opportunities for their children to endure hardships and let them go through hardships and setbacks. Japanese mothers also often educate their children that their own national resources are scarce, and they can only survive by working hard on their own. Therefore, everyone must put the country first and make more contributions to the country. In this way, Japanese children have left a deep imprint on the concept of the country from an early age.
  As can be seen from the living conditions of Japanese housewives above, the role played by Japanese housewives is by no means a simple domestic worker.

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