If you can’t stabilize your emotions in the workplace, you won’t be able to hold your job
When Ruohan was 26 years old, he became the director of the company’s planning department. Before that, his career path had been smooth sailing. Suddenly, the company’s marketing department parachuted a minister who was notoriously harsh. The new minister asked Ruohan to make a proposal for a new product, and he communicated with him more than a dozen times, but none of the proposals got his approval. It was not easy to negotiate a result. When the plan was being reported, the minister suddenly overturned Ruohan’s efforts. This time the work was progressing with difficulty, and after the plan was approved, it was completely rejected, which directly annoyed Ruohan.
So Ruohan slapped the table directly in front of everyone: “Since this plan is useless, why did you nod before? Are you trying to trick someone on purpose? Whoever loves to serve whoever wants to serve!” The mouth addiction is over, but The price of being addicted is indeed a bit high. He failed to become a hero, but became the laughing stock of the entire industry after dinner.
There is a popular saying in the workplace: “I advise you not to be more tempered than your ability.” People with a temper have poor emotional management skills. Emotional matters cannot be persuaded. So what should you do if you feel like you are about to explode emotionally at work? Four steps: first to perceive, second to express feelings, third to escape, and fourth to return.
For example, if you and a colleague have different opinions on an issue, both parties are difficult to be persuaded and even a little impatient when communicating. At this time, you have to ask yourself: Am I discussing the facts, or venting my emotions with a gun and a stick? If it is the latter, in order to avoid getting angry, you can express your feelings to your colleagues: “I’m sorry, give me a few minutes, wait a moment, let’s talk again.” Then, leave the space just discussed, go to the bathroom, pantry, etc., Make a buffer. After confirming that your heartbeat and speech rate are stable, return to the scene.
In the workplace, being scolded seems inevitable. In the face of accusations, the human instinct is to refute. Humans naturally prefer praise over criticism. How to remain calm when being criticized by colleagues and leaders? Teacher Zhang Quanling gave a solution. She believes: “Being scolded also requires training. If the psychological endurance is not enough, then do an action, pick up a book or notebook to record, remember and you will relax. ”
Some may find this strategy too foolish. Then I would like to ask, is it the emotional quarrel that offends everyone and is isolated and dismissed as useless, or quickly restores calm, finds the problem, and expresses the uselessness of the attitude with reason? Recording itself is a way of emotional catharsis. When you are mentally tense, moving your body can effectively hedge against emotional tension.
The failure of emotional management is by no means a failure of one management, but the accumulation of multiple hidden dangers. In the workplace, many people have more or less forbearable moments. The long-term input and lack of output of toxic emotions will only feed risk factors and will not resolve real crises. After all, most of the time it is not the earth-shattering events that overwhelm adults, but the little things that are not worth mentioning. If you want to maintain emotional stability in the workplace, you must ensure the support of the “big rear”, that is, to balance work and life. In the workplace, the most unsatisfactory person is not the person who is made things difficult at work, but the person who has no source to provide vitality in life.
University of Texas psychologist Wen Slav proposed the mood boosting method in a study. He believes that in daily life, sensory enjoyment can change emotions, such as reading, exercising, watching TV and movies, playing games and other activities in spare time, which can improve one’s sense of well-being and release stress.
Someone asked: What is the meaning of work? The meaning of work is to live a better life. But now many people give up their lives for work, which is the root cause of emotional problems in the workplace. Develop a healthy way of leisure, the body will secrete more “endorphins”, this “youth hormone” will make us love life more, gain a richer sense of happiness, and thus achieve peace and tranquility of body and mind. “It’s cool to vent your emotions for a while, and you regret it when you’re happy.” Mature people in the workplace have “cut away” their emotions at work.
The most powerful thing in the workplace is not that your emotions can be responded to, but that your work can be recognized. Any behavior that emphasizes personal feelings over work results will be backlashed. I wish you all less bitterness of emotions and more sweetness of work!