The Three Types of Things We Do in Life: An Essay on Human Existence

People need to engage in various activities to sustain their existence.

Throughout history and across cultures, there has never been anyone who could survive without any exertion, not even infants. Nursing is an activity that an infant performs. If he is deprived of it, he will wail incessantly, but if he is allowed to do it, he will be placid and serene. In a broader sense, even mosquitoes have something to do: extract blood; even earthworms have something to do: tunnel into the soil.
The deeds that a person accomplishes in his or her lifetime can be categorized from multiple perspectives – such as moral and immoral, virtuous and wicked, refined and vulgar, grand and trivial… and so forth.
The endeavors that all people in the world undertake in their lifetime can also be distinguished in a simpler manner, that is, nothing less – what they desire to do, what they are obliged to do, and what they abhor to do.
Some people spend their entire lives doing things they detest. For instance, his or her profession is certainly not his or her choice, but it is exceedingly arduous to alter it, “as difficult as ascending to heaven”. Leaving aside ancient times and foreign lands, only in China, only two decades ago, such hapless people were ubiquitous.
And the whole life of most of us is actually just doing what we have to do all day long. Day after day, bit by bit, we become apathetic to the things that we would so much like to do, that we once so aspired to do. Even, don’t even contemplate it. It’s as if the aspiration to do something that we have been particularly eager to do has never emerged in our minds to attempt to do it. Even those things do not require any qualifications and capital to be overwhelmed. Day after day, bit by bit, we become people whose life processes are filled with just what has to be done, trivialities.
I think this is one of the so-called verities of life, right? Senescence, malady, and demise are things that no one can evade. If you are ill, you have to be hospitalized, and if you are hospitalized, you have to undergo treatment. Treatment is not only a matter for physicians, but also something that requires the collaboration of patients. The protracted phases of some treatments are more agonizing than some illnesses themselves. So what people are least willing to do suddenly becomes what they have to do. Later, for the sake of life, the last thing I didn’t want to do became not only the thing I had to do, but also the thing I was most willing to do well.
The things we must do are, first of all, those things that signify the pivot of our lives. Once we don’t even do these things, or don’t strive diligently, our life will lose its equilibrium, and it can’t even persist. For example, each of us must have an occupation and an income. Therefore, people in some organizations have to report to work every day, and freelancers should not be too lax. When it is time to work hard, you have to demand yourself to be indefatigable. The reason why very few people in this world are fortunate is that they are fortunate-the things they have to do are exactly the things they are willing to do. Most people are not so fortunate. Most people are good enough to have a job and an income. In an era of fierce competition for employment opportunities, even if it is not something you are willing to do, it should be regarded as a kind of low-quality fortune. Even if you plan to get rid of it, you will always deliberate carefully, weigh the pros and cons, and vacillate.

Because for most of us, what we have to do all day is often not only related to our own existence, but also to various duties and commitments. For example, parents to children; spouses; elder siblings to younger ones… These duties and commitments make the things that we ordinary people have to do all day long have a nature beyond inclination and aversion, and they endow them with a special significance. This special significance seems more worthwhile than, if not more gratifying to ourselves than, those things which we are willing to do.
We do what we have to do, sometimes precisely so that we can one day do what we want to do without hindrance. The general rule is roughly the same. Some people assiduously do what they have to do for several years, or even for more than ten or twenty years, and their life is finally radiant, and they are finally able to do what they want to do. The conditions are of course first created by oneself. Of course, there must be such a premise – what I want to do, I have always been pondering it, I have always coveted to do it, and I have never lost my thoughts…
We do what we have to do, sometimes just not so that we can one day do what we want to do without hindrance. We have often discerned clearly that what we want to do is not approaching us because we try so hard and impeccably to do what we have to do; on the contrary, day by day, gradually receding from us has become something we are destined to miss in our lives. But we still try so hard and so impeccably to do what we have to do. For what? For the next generation. For the next generation to be able to do what they and what they are willing to do to the greatest extent. For them and what they are willing to do is no longer completely passive with their own lives and miss out. For them and them, have the greatest initiative in life, and not be constrained by things that we don’t want to do at all. And then have the greatest initiative in life, make what you have to do and what you are willing to do harmoniously, at least partially, at least not repeat the mistakes of your life, because you are mired in what you have to do all day long And completely ruined the conditions and opportunities to attempt to do what you are willing to do. The progress of society depends on such sacrifices of the previous generation. The next generation also benefits greatly from the sacrifice of the previous generation.
Why do some parents prefer to persist in doing strenuous labor that is beyond their physical strength, or do a job with a very low income without complaint or regret after retirement? In order for their children to receive higher education, they can make their children Their lives flow smoothly closer to what they want to do.
The most pitiable people are those who finally, like a heavy cross, get rid of what they have to do and even abhor to do, but have done for almost a whole life; finally one day, they exhale deeply and say to themselves- Now, I can do what I want to do. That thing may just be a visit to the hometown, or a trip to a certain place, or even just a flight or a sea voyage…but the god of death suddenly came to hold his or her hand… “Poor parents all over the world At this point, the word “heart” should really be changed to “respectable parental heart”.

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