Many people are feeling: what drives a person crazy is often not the work itself, but the interpersonal relationship at work.
Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, which is inevitable.
It’s just that really smart people do it: don’t drive your colleagues crazy, and don’t be driven crazy by your colleagues.
Never drive your colleagues crazy
Giger, an American master of interpersonal management, had a hot temper when he was young.
Whenever a colleague makes a mistake, even if it is a trivial problem, he will hold on to it and yell at him.
When he had an unhappy negotiation with a client, when he returned to the company, he would vent his anger on his colleagues.
Over time, everyone avoided him.
Because he was always emotionally unstable and his interpersonal relationship was a mess, he changed 17 companies in 5 years, which also caused him to fall into a huge financial crisis.
Until later, a leader of the new company reminded him:
You should pay more attention to your own problems and focus on your own career instead of throwing temper tantrums at those around you.
It was only then that Jiger realized that there was a reason for his being unpopular and stagnant in his career.
No one wants to work with someone who is emotionally unstable.
Since then, he put aside his accusations, restrained his temper, and got along with everyone with a peaceful attitude.
A few years later, he, who is well versed in communication skills, created an interpersonal relationship course based on his own experience and became a world-renowned master of interpersonal management.
No one wants to see bad faces, and no one wants to hear abuse. Letting emotions run wild will only push everyone around to the opposite side.
Jobs went through a period of lows.
When he was in charge of Apple in the early days, he had a weird personality, domineering, and lost his temper every time.
Because of his personality problem, in a board vote, he was unanimously expelled from Apple, the company he founded.
Later, Jobs himself said that people are defeated by themselves, and first of all they are defeated by their emotions.
The angry one is the slave of the heart.
When we pull the emotional trigger, we hurt others but ourselves.
Never be driven crazy by co-workers
Investor Charlie Munger once gave advice to young people: Don’t wrestle with pigs, stay away from those poisonous people.
Everyone will meet some bad people at work. They may do everything possible to blame you, or they may ridicule you all day long.
To entangle with it, or to ignore it, different ways of dealing with it determine different endings.
When Ni Ping entered CCTV, she was just a newcomer in the TV circle.
At that time, the leader of the station approached Ni Ping and asked her if she would like to shoot a video clip of the program for CCTV.
Ni Ping naturally accepted such a rare opportunity.
But when she was about to get the script, an episode happened.
Another well-known host saw Ni Ping walking towards him, and deliberately threw the script on the ground with a “snap”.
At that moment, Ni Ping’s self-esteem was severely hit.
To pick up, or not to pick up?
She stood for a full minute, and fought fiercely in her heart for a minute.
But soon, she directly discarded the unnecessary emotions, bent down, and picked up the script.
The moment she turned to leave, Ni Ping secretly made up her mind: “I must work hard and take root here.”
It was also because of this incident that Ni Ping performed very well during the trial recording of the program and successfully got the opportunity to host “Zhengda Variety Show”.
If Ni Ping is worried, doesn’t pick up the script, and keeps entangled with that senior, it may be her own work that will be messed up in the end.
The workplace is a Shura field, and it is also a monastic field.
There are always unreasonable people who make us angry, and mean colleagues who make us disgusted.
All we have to do is to cultivate a strong heart and avoid consuming ourselves in bad people and things.
Let go of the emotions of resentment and pity for yourself. Those deep and dangerous ditches that cannot be crossed in work are just temporary shallows.
In the book “The Myth of Work”, author Alan de Botton raises a question: What is the value of work?
Numerous readers have come to such a conclusion: first, there must be economic rewards, and second, there must be growth value.
When we realize this, we will understand:
Emotions are the least important thing at work , and solving problems is always more important than solving emotions.
When entrepreneur Lee Kai-fu first arrived at Microsoft, senior manager Jones often made things difficult for him.
For a long time, Jones not only refused Lee Kai-fu to participate in his project, but also turned a deaf ear to many of his legitimate requests.
But Kai-fu Lee was not affected in the slightest, and devoted himself to his work, and finally got a big scientific research project with his own efforts.
Not long after, the company’s top executives heard that Jones’ work ability was limited and his interpersonal relationship was tense, so they planned to fire him.
When they asked Kai-fu Lee for advice, Kai-fu Lee did not take the opportunity to retaliate, but said objectively:
“Jones doesn’t have a lot of air, and he is a bit stubborn in getting along with people, but I think he is a usable talent, and there is no problem with his ability to work.”
Because of this comment, Jones was eventually retained.
Since then, he has become Lee Kai-fu’s most effective partner. With Jones’ help, Kai-Fu Lee eventually started his own business as well.
People who focus on work, uphold the principle of putting people first.
Before, there was a question on the Internet: What kind of work concept should a person have?
I agree with one answer: work, do your best to complete it; do not care about anything other than work.
This is probably the highest state of work: only things in mind, no one else.
In the workplace, there is a term called “emotional cost”.
This means that for every minute you get emotional, you lose a minute working through the problem.
Quit your emotions and don’t drive your colleagues crazy; stabilize your mentality and don’t be driven crazy by your colleagues.
With more time and energy to improve ourselves, those people and things that make us angry will become insignificant.