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7 Signs to Identify an Emotionally Unstable Person Early in a Relationship

  Dealing with an emotionally unstable person can be tiring and vulnerable, so early identification is very important.
  Some time ago, a female counselor complained to me that her husband was fine with everything, but was emotionally unstable and often got angry with her and her children over trivial matters. Even in some social occasions, such as gatherings of family and friends, he would lose control of his emotions and yell at her, making her extremely embarrassed and even wanting a divorce.
  This husband is prone to anger. I have a friend named Mao Na. Her ex-boyfriend is a type of inner-spiritual person. She constantly suffers from various anxieties every day. One moment she complains to her girlfriend that work is boring, the next moment she complains that life is so tiring and boring, etc. This made Mao Na feel that her boyfriend was like a child, with unstable emotions, ups and downs.
  Everyone wants to find an emotionally stable partner. How to identify whether the other person is emotionally stable through some details of life at the beginning of a relationship?
  You can do this:
  1. Observe his behavior in public places. For example, when you go to a restaurant and the waiter is slow to serve the food, he gets angry, blames and complains; when driving, it is easy to become a road rager and curse when encountering a traffic jam. Such a person can basically be judged to be emotionally unstable.
  2. Observe whether he likes to complain. If he always complains, complains that he was not born in a good family, complains that society is unfair to him, etc., this person will easily become emotionally unstable.
  3. Observe whether he has the trait of being overly anxious. If there is any disturbance in life, it is easy for him to become anxious. For example, when work requirements change, he will be uneasy; if he encounters a small failure, he will worry that life will get worse, etc. Such people are often emotionally unstable.
  4. Observe whether he is easily incited by others. For example, when someone recommends an investment project, he enthusiastically wants to invest all his savings without careful consideration, believing that he can make a lot of money. People who are prone to superstition and blind obedience are often emotionally unstable.
  5. Observe whether he tends to speak indiscriminately when he has a conflict with you. If this man blocks you on WeChat after a quarrel with you, says some very unpleasant things, or engages in extreme behaviors such as self-abuse or breaking things during the quarrel, then such a man can be judged as emotionally unstable.
  6. Observe whether he is a sensitive person. Although he is a boy, he is very narrow-minded, like the male version of Sister Lin. When he sees you with a stranger of the opposite sex, he suspects that you are unfaithful to him; when it is cloudy and rainy, he becomes inexplicably sad; occasionally when you reply to his message late, he suspects that you do not love him, etc. Men with sensitive personalities are also prone to emotional instability.
  There is another type of person who seems polite, gentle, and friendly to colleagues and friends, but the closer they are to the people they are, the more likely they are to lose control of their emotions. Therefore, when you first get to know someone, you should not just look at how he behaves towards his friends or colleagues, but go to his home and observe how he behaves towards his family before making a judgment.
  We all like to get along with people who are emotionally stable, which can make the intimate relationship less internal friction and more mutually nourishing. But if you are already in a relationship or even married to an emotionally unstable person, you need to help him analyze the reasons.
  Observe carefully and think about it. Is his unstable mood caused by the shadow of childhood? Did he suffer from endocrine disorders during a special period? Is there anything in life or work that makes him stressed? If the situation is minor, you might as well be more tolerant and considerate when getting along with him, and help him maintain emotional stability through active communication. If the situation is severe, professional psychological and drug treatment may be required.

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