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Feral to Friendless: The Wolf Girls and the Modern Malaise of Social Connection

In 1920, a “mysterious creature” appeared in the forest near a small city called Midnapore northeast of Kolkata, the capital of West Bengal, India.
Witnesses said that these mysterious creatures were in groups, and two of them walked on all fours and looked very much like humans.

Later, people discovered that this was actually a wolf pack, and surprisingly, there were two human girls (one about 7 years old and the other about 2 years old) among the wolves.
They hunt naked with wolves for a long time and are completely adapted to the life of wolves.
Later, they were brought back to human society.
What is unexpected is that within two years, two “wolf boys” died one after another.

In this regard, many anthropologists speculate that the psychological level of “wolf children” has long been unable to adapt to human society.
Due to the influence of environmental factors, they can only survive with wolves, so they cannot learn human language and cannot develop their thinking and cognition.
Even if the physical development is similar to that of children of the same age, the psychological level cannot be compared with children of the same age.
Although they returned to human society, their most basic desire for survival collapsed due to the lack of interpersonal relationships and rich emotional needs.
The reason why humans are called advanced animals is precisely because we have social attributes.
Our close connection with society maintains our desire to survive, which shows the importance of interpersonal skills.

communication ability
Interpersonal skills refer to an individual’s ability to adapt to different social situations and handle self-emotional problems.
We often feel that our circle of friends seems to be getting bigger, but the number of real close friends has become fewer.

Whenever you encounter difficulties or feel depressed and want to talk to someone,

You will find that even if you search your entire circle of friends or address book, you cannot find anyone with whom you can express your feelings.

In the end, you had to swallow your grievance silently.

Maybe when you have nothing to do, you post an insignificant update, which will attract many likes and comments from “good friends”.

You have indeed gained recognition and pleasure from these likes and comments, as well as the illusion that you have a wide range of contacts.

But when you really encounter difficulties, these friends disappear again.

This may be a sign that the friend you thought was not a friend at all, but an “audience”.

friend role

In the journey of life, friends play an indispensable role. Each of us longs for the company of friends.
A sincere friend will inspire you, support you, take care of you, and respect your choices. The friendship between you will not change due to fluctuations in your social status.
People hold different views on the value of friendship.
Some people think it’s good to be alone and think friendship is not necessary; while others regard friendship as an indispensable spiritual pillar in life.
From an intellectual perspective, healthy relationships allow you to connect spiritually with others, gain new insights, and benefit from them.
From a psychological perspective, good friendship allows you to live in harmony with others and reduce friction in close relationships.
From the perspective of cognitive psychology, friendship is the basis for maintaining the emotions of life. The quality of your friends directly reflects your personality and social ability.
When you find that you don’t have a friend around you, it can be regarded as a failure and a low point in life. You have entered a “low-match life”.
Many times, we are surrounded by more viewers than friends.
Audiences may only bring you temporary satisfaction, but real friends can touch your heart.
Those friends who share your three views will support you spiritually, care about you, help you correct when you make mistakes, and encourage you to move forward.
Only superficial people will pursue the attention of the audience, while those who truly pursue progress need real “friends”.

embedded social theory
In sociology, the study of social relations is a traditional and far-reaching field.
In the past, the focus on friends, social relationships, and social structures, especially the refinement of their definitions and operationalizations, has led to a neglect of different social relationship concepts.
Professor Mark Granovetter of Stanford University once proposed in his “embeddedness” theory that social relationships between people are embedded in broad social structures.

The famous sociologist Fei Xiaotong mentioned the “differential order pattern” in his book “Country China”, emphasizing that there are natural boundaries between communities.
However, the relationships within the community are consistent, and the characteristics of this social relationship should be regarded as “group patterns”.
Although relationships between people and friends are built around individuals, only close friendships can promote mutual growth.
In today’s society, interpersonal relationships tend to be weak, and connections are usually maintained only when there is a stake in the relationship.
There is a protective relationship between true friends, which includes material and non-material support, and also reflects the survival strategies people adopt in society.
True friendship, unlike other forms of social organization, is not only about establishing connections with friends, but also establishing diverse and comprehensive relationships with a wider range of social members, otherwise it can easily lead to psychological imbalance.
From this perspective, friends are the key to maintaining psychological balance.
If a person has no friends, he may lose the ability to communicate, feel lonely, and live a low-quality life.

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