Quieting the Mind: How Self-Awareness Leads to Inner Peace

Do you often feel like your brain can’t “quiet”?

There are always various thoughts swirling in your mind, making it difficult to focus on the present moment.


Even though I was chatting with my friends, my thoughts involuntarily drifted to my worries at work;

Although we are clearly enjoying a wonderful weekend, we can’t help but worry about the uncertainty of the future;

Although we are in a quiet environment, our brain is like a never-ending engine, constantly making noise.

This kind of uncontrollable thinking is most likely to exhaust a person’s energy. The feeling of mental internal friction is the fundamental reason why many people feel that their lives are “out of control”.

But what caused all this?

Some people think that the pace of life is too fast, which makes people’s thoughts always tense; some people think that they think too much, so they often fall into chaotic thoughts.

But if you think about it carefully, these are only the most superficial external reasons.

The fundamental reason why a person’s thoughts are too chaotic and his spirit is too internally consumed can be summed up in one sentence – lack of awareness of one’s own thinking.

Don’t rush to deny it, let’s slowly dig into the deeper reasons.


The “flooding” of thoughts

Have you ever noticed that a person’s thoughts become particularly active in certain situations?

Give a simple example.

When we are alone and quiet, all kinds of thoughts and worries will take advantage of it and race through our minds.

But when we are in a lively party and talking with others, our attention is attracted to the outside world, and those chaotic thoughts cease.

Therefore, many people subconsciously use external stimulation such as social interaction and entertainment to numb themselves and avoid their inner voices. This is not true relaxation, but a short-sighted coping strategy.

On the contrary, those who are aware of their own thoughts know how to talk to their inner beings, examine themselves, fundamentally calm their hearts, and gain true tranquility.

This illustrates a very common phenomenon: the reason why many people have overflowing thoughts is a lack of self-awareness.

It needs to be emphasized that the so-called “self-awareness” does not refer to the perception of the external environment or the keen insight into the emotions of others, but rather refers to the ability to be aware of one’s own inner thoughts and emotional flows.

As the book “The Power of Now” says: “Observing your thoughts, feeling your inner energy field, and maintaining clear awareness are the keys to getting rid of thinking troubles.”

Author Eckhart Tolle tells an inspiring story.

Once upon a time, there was a Zen master who found that his heart was always full of various emotions and thoughts, so he went to consult a master.

The master told him that you don’t need to suppress or avoid those thoughts, just be aware of them like a bystander without judgment, don’t dance with them, and naturally, they will lose their power.

After the Zen master did this, he was soon no longer troubled by his own thoughts.

Why tell this story?

The reason why many people feel pain is not only because of the chaotic thoughts in their minds, but also because they are completely wrapped up in those thoughts and lose themselves.

To put it simply, because of the lack of awareness and the inability to get out of the whirlpool of thinking, you will feel exhausted when you are led by emotions and thoughts.

On the contrary, it is those who can be aware of themselves. They know how to get out of their minds, examine their hearts, gain strength in awareness, no longer be influenced by their thoughts, and are naturally calm.

This is the first layer of problems caused by “lack of self-awareness”: a flood of thoughts and an inability to focus on the present.

And this is not just all the problems that a lack of awareness can bring.


The “source” of internal friction

The second level of problems caused by lack of self-awareness is:

The less aware you are of your own thinking, the easier it is to be swayed by your emotions, wandering in negative thoughts, and falling into a vicious cycle.

I’m reminded of an interesting experiment mentioned by psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in his book “Flow”.

Researchers asked some people to sit and meditate while measuring their physical and psychological indicators.

It was found that people who were unable to be aware of their thoughts were more likely to be physically tense and have more mood swings.

And those who can be aware of their inner minds can maintain inner peace and concentration no matter what kind of external stimulation they face.

This experiment revealed a profound truth: Our relationship with the inner world largely determines our relationship with the outside world.

A person who is constantly pulled away by his thoughts will always have distracted attention and unstable emotions. It will be difficult to establish good interpersonal relationships, and it will be even more difficult to achieve ideal results in work and life.

On the contrary, a person who can be aware of his own heart has a clear understanding of his own thoughts and emotions, so that he can better control his attention and face the disturbances of the outside world calmly.

A person’s attention often reflects his inner state. Awareness is the key to controlling our attention.

What people should be most wary of is never the temptation and interference from the outside world, but the ignorance and persistence in their own hearts.

People who are aware of themselves are good at being aware of their own limitations, calmly accepting their own imperfections, and gaining the power to grow through awareness.

But those who lack awareness are led by their own emotions and desires, and get lost in self-imposed limitations, sinking deeper and deeper.


There is a saying in Buddhism: “Don’t be afraid of remembering it, but be afraid of being late in realizing it.”

I once thought that the so-called enlightenment was the ultimate understanding of the universe and life.

After going around for several years, I realized that the starting point of enlightenment is to be aware of one’s own body and mind; the true meaning of enlightenment is to be aware of every moment of the present.

Because only in this way can we no longer be fettered by the past and the future, no longer influenced by thoughts and emotions, stay in the present, and live out the true colors of life.

Therefore, if you also feel serious internal friction, you might as well give your thoughts an outlet, give awareness a chance, feel your inner self with your heart, find peace in awareness, and find strength in the present moment.

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