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Embracing Uncertainty: Patience, Learning, and Growth in Life

As the saying goes, when people go to higher places, water flows to lower places.

It is easy for water to flow downward, but it is difficult for people to move upward.

Because everything in nature will become increasingly chaotic and disordered without the action of external forces.

For example, the computer becomes more and more stuck as it is used, the house becomes more and more messy, people’s memory becomes worse and worse, and their behavior becomes more and more lax…

This is the law of entropy increase, which means that all systems have a tendency to self-destruct without the influence of external forces.

And deep in everyone’s heart, there is a desire to grow upward.

When we see other people’s counterattacks, we often envy and worry: When will this luck come to us?

Self-media celebrity Jiubian gave the answer in “Growing Up”:

If a person’s life does not go downhill, he must fight against the increase of entropy. If you follow human nature, good luck will never come to you.

Be patient and don’t take shortcuts

We have many good ideas, such as fitness, reading, writing…

But they often die before they are even halfway through. This is because it is human nature to be instantly gratified and impatient.

When we do things, we always want immediate results. For example, you can become a writing master by writing a few articles, you can develop a habit by persisting for 21 days, you can learn a skill by taking a crash course…

Most people would choose to lie flat if they could get results without putting in any effort.

Therefore, we don’t have many competitors. What we really need to defeat is the kid in our heart who is eager for results.

If you have patience, you will work hard and not take shortcuts.

Zeng Guofan said: Only the most clumsy in the world can defeat the most skillful in the world. When he was fighting the enemy, he had a trick called “Fortify the stronghold and fight the battle stupidly.”

Others set up ecstasy formations and waged blitzkrieg, but only Zeng Guofan’s troops spent a long time building camps, digging trenches and building walls.

The result was that his “hard stronghold” blocked sneak attacks one after another, and his “silly battle” trapped the enemy tightly. His stupid ways beat the smart ones.

How to make such stupid efforts? Jiubian said, use quantity to kill quality.

Before the college entrance examination, a middle school invited top scorers from previous years to introduce learning methods.

The top scholar said: “Before the college entrance examination last year, I only did one math problem every day.” The students’ eyes suddenly lit up and they saw hope.

The top pick continued: “Later, my mother beat me up and forced me to do 100 math problems every day.”

After hearing this, the students were discouraged. It turns out that even the top scorer in the college entrance examination cannot escape the question-sea tactic.

The learning of any skill requires a slow start process, and it is impossible to see results immediately.

The best way is to practice repeatedly, have the patience to break through the critical point, and wait for qualitative changes.

If you don’t masturbate for 10,000 hours, don’t expect to have eight-pack abs; if you want to write a novel, you have to write a million words first and then read it.

What we think of as quality issues are essentially quantity issues.

Any seemingly complex skill is the accumulation of simple foundations.

Don’t underestimate the small accumulation every day.

If you feel a little progress, multiply it by 10 times. If you multiply anything by 10 times, it will change dramatically.

Balzac said that all human abilities are nothing more than a mixture of patience and time.

Only by putting in enough efforts can explosive growth occur.

Embrace uncertainty and learn for life

Human nature is to pursue “certainty”. We are afraid of change and full of fear of the unknown.

But the essence of life is impermanence. The only certain thing in life is uncertainty.

If a person lives with certainty all his life and resists changes and challenges, he will be vulnerable once a crisis strikes.

Only by facing uncertainty more can you have the ability to resist risks and have more opportunities and luck.

For example, after graduating from college, some people choose to work in first-tier cities. Although it is full of variables and risks, it also offers more opportunities.

Embrace uncertainty and always keep learning.

Not long ago, an article was widely circulated.

It is about many middle-aged unemployed people who have been laid off by their companies but are burdened with the pressure of supporting their families. In order to avoid the embarrassment of facing family and acquaintances, they have no choice but to hide in Starbucks and order a cup of coffee for the day.

Many people are accustomed to relying on their existing knowledge to cope with changes, refuse to accept new knowledge, or stop learning because they think they can’t learn it.

But getting used to the comfort in your comfort zone is precisely the most dangerous state.

This means that you will become that frog in the warm water.

Jiubian’s instructor is over sixty years old and has always maintained a learning attitude.

Not only is he learning Python from videos online, he is also writing a booklet about the history of the Huns and a book to teach children mathematics.

When facing uncertainty in life, anxiety is inevitable, but it is not a bad thing. It will make you actively and diligently find a way out.

In an era full of uncertainty, only by keeping an open mind and learning new knowledge can we become stronger.

If you want to learn effectively, Jiubian recommends two methods:

First, the daily goals should be small.

He set a small goal for himself: forcing himself to read two pages of a book every day, and he could only do other things after reading two pages of the book. Only by starting with a small amount can you overachieve.

The second is to constantly expand yourself at the edge of your comfort zone.

If you want to continue to improve, you can’t just repeat in your comfort zone. You need to train in your own “zone of recent development”, that is, constantly practice those things that you can do but are particularly easy to make mistakes, or you can’t do but you can understand it with a little effort.

Munger said: I constantly see some people getting better and better. They are not the smartest, but they are often the ones who love to learn the most.

In the face of so much uncertainty, lifelong learning is the only way to deliver certainty.

Don’t indulge in entertainment, be restrained and self-disciplined

When you are ready to study, it will probably look like this:

First, scroll through Douyin for a while, then go to Weibo to browse popular events, and then look through your circle of friends… A few hours have passed, and you haven’t picked up the book yet.

It is human nature to like entertainment. Hu Shi once wrote in his diary:

July 14th: Playing cards; July 15th: Playing cards;

July 16: Hu Shizhi, Hu Shizhi! How can you be so depraved! Have you forgotten all the study plans you made earlier? This cannot go on.

July 17: Playing cards.

Therefore, when your brain tells you to study and your body wants you to exercise, you will most likely spend the next 8 hours considering their suggestions while playing games.

Neil Postman said in Amusing Ourselves to Death:

A large amount of entertainment information will divert people’s attention and dissatisfaction, make people feel comfortable with the status quo, and slowly lose their enthusiasm, desire to fight, and ability to think.

The dazzling short videos and games will constantly stimulate the brain, gradually making people fall into an addictive state, making them happy and unknowingly turning into a useless person.

Elites understand this well and never waste time on entertainment.

Those Silicon Valley giants stay away from electronic devices after work, and those game designers don’t touch games at all after work.

Stay away from entertainment until death. In addition to deliberately staying away from mobile phones, the Internet and games, there are two methods you can try:

One is to take the initiative to fill your time with more important and meaningful things.

Jiubian once went on a business trip with a very good friend. While the others were watching TV shows on the plane, this friend was reading and writing articles on the plane.

As soon as the plane landed, I submitted it, and when I got to the hotel, the royalties were paid. Let our time be occupied by important and meaningful things, and we will have no time to indulge in entertainment.

The second is to transform yourself from a consumer into a producer.

In the 21st century, whoever can earn other people’s time can earn other people’s money. Whoever’s time is wasted is destined to become poorer and poorer.

For example, when we watch short videos, we are wasting time, but those who make short videos gain profits.

In the Internet era, everyone can become a producer. For example, you can open your own accounts on various platforms and export your own products for others to consume.

Entertainment itself is not a derogatory term, moderate entertainment is not a bad thing, and most importantly, do not become a slave to entertainment.

Simple desires can be realized with indulgence, while advanced desires require self-discipline and restraint.

write at the end

There is a line in the TV series “Breaking Bad”: Anyone who is poor can do it.

It means that it is easy to be poor, just follow your nature.

The reason why powerful people are powerful is that they can take the initiative to seek abuse and do things that are unpleasant but valuable.

Some people want to take shortcuts and believe in the power of persistence; some are satisfied with the status quo and continue to expand the boundaries of cognition and ability; some enjoy the joy of indulgence and use creation to satisfy their sense of accomplishment.

Many times, what widens the gap between people is whether a person can overcome his own nature and instinct, tolerate what others cannot tolerate, and be cruel to others.

Everyone who quietly becomes powerful is secretly cruel to himself.

To grow upward, you actually don’t need to surpass others, but to surpass yourself.

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