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Unraveling the Mystery of Love’s Tension

Love is a rollercoaster of emotions, and one of its most intriguing aspects is the tension it brings. Drawing inspiration from Salinger’s wisdom and the character of Cao Di in “Joy Luck Club,” we explore how love manifests through subtle actions and emotional responses. From the delicate dance of touch-and-restraint to the nervous stutters of affection, love’s tension reveals a depth of care and consideration that words often fail to convey.

In the tapestry of relationships, Cao Di exemplifies the shift from a professional “love charlatan” to a nervous yet genuine admirer when true love takes hold. It’s in these moments of hesitation and vulnerability that the true essence of love shines through, transcending mere words or gestures.

Navigating the fine line between friendly tension and hostile unease, we find that the root of tension in love lies in how we perceive the other person. It’s the unique blend of caring deeply, yet feeling slightly off-balance that defines the special connection we share with someone we hold dear.

From the flutter of the heart to the rush of hormones, our bodies betray us in the presence of love, triggering a cascade of physiological responses that speak volumes even when words falter. Understanding these physical manifestations of love can deepen our appreciation for the intricate dance of emotions that accompany matters of the heart.

Ultimately, in the realm of love, embracing the tension is key. It’s about letting go of inner anxieties, trusting that authenticity will always outweigh perfection in the eyes of those who truly cherish us. Love’s tension is not a barrier but a bridge, connecting hearts in a symphony of emotions that speak louder than words ever could.

Love it or not, the details will tell you the answer. Salinger wrote this sentence in “The Broken Heart”:”Some people think love is sex, marriage, kisses at six in the morning, and kids, and maybe that’s true, Miss Lester. But you know what I think, I think love is about touching and then taking back. hand.”

“The hand that wants to touch but then takes away” is the smallest detail when you love someone. It is the caution you only have after you truly fall in love with someone.

It’s like being suddenly speechless in front of someone. It’s not that I don’t have anything to say, but that I have too many words to say, and I don’t know which sentence best expresses my feelings, so I am nervous and don’t know what to say. This is the case with Cao Dick in “Happy Events at Home”.

As a professional “love liar”, when getting along with the opposite sex, he can always bring up a topic in a few words and easily make the other person fall in love with him.However, when he met Xiao Min, whom he truly loved, Cao Dick became hesitant and extremely nervous. He couldn’t even say “Can we have dinner together?”     

What is the most basic expression of loving someone?

Probably because you are extra special to that person and different from everyone else. This specialness can be expressed as care or concern, but sometimes, those cares and concerns will be expressed as nervousness.Therefore, when a person is always nervous in front of you, it often means one thing – he or she probably likes you. the reason is simple. 

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Some nervousness is just because you care too much about the person in front of you, so you worry too much, so that you can’t maintain a normal mind. Nervousness is the most direct reaction.

I remember there is a saying that goes like this: “I always hesitate when I like it, but when I play, I can make witty remarks.”

When you don’t care about the person in front of you, you won’t worry about what you say will make the other person unhappy, nor will you worry about what you do that will make you look embarrassed, thereby reducing the other person’s good impression of you.

Therefore, you can joke with the other person casually, say a joking word casually, chat whenever you want, or just say you are busy if you don’t want to chat. It’s just different when facing someone you like.

You want to make the other person’s heart flutter, and you hope that things can be possible between the two of you, so you always want to show your best side, for fear that any of your words may cause the other person to misunderstand.    Just like the aforementioned Cao Dick, when cultivating a relationship with a client, he can casually tell a joke to make the other party happy. Even if he fails, he can just try again.But when he met Xiao Min, it wasn’t that Cao Dick couldn’t remember the jokes, or that he didn’t know which joke had the best response, but he was worried that what he said would appear frivolous and that the jokes he said would make the other person uncomfortable.

Therefore, emotional intelligence masters become little sheep, and love experts become love novices. To put it bluntly, they are like this just because they like it.

Especially after Cao Dick’s identity as a “love liar” was exposed, he was particularly worried that Xiao Min would no longer like him. Those who are cautious in love are the only signs of loving someone.In love, many people are like this. They want a good ending too much and can’t control their nervousness.But I hope you can understand that people who will love you will love you no matter who you are, and people who won’t love you will find it difficult to love you no matter how perfect you pretend to be.Therefore, if you can let go of your inner tension, love may have different results. After all, there is always a limit to what you can express when you are nervous.    

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I’m still a little nervous, because I like the other person, so from the moment I see that person, my heart is pounding. This kind of heartbeat will make me lose my ability to think, and become nervous. If you like someone, your body will show it directly.

From a scientific point of view, when you meet someone you like, the sympathetic nerves will reach the hypothalamus and medulla oblongata of the human body, as well as the sympathetic postganglionic nerve endings of the heart. They will be excited and release some substances, such as adenoidin and dopamine. These hormones will It causes the body’s heart conduction to accelerate, the heartbeat to accelerate, and it also causes vasoconstriction and blood pressure to rise rapidly.

To put it simply, when you meet someone you like, your body will secrete various hormones, which will make your heart beat faster and lose your ability to think in a short period of time. Give a simple example:Just like when someone asks you if you have time tomorrow, a normal person’s mentality is just wondering if he has time, or wondering what he wants me to do…    

But if you like the other person, what kind of psychological activity will this question cause you?

You may be thinking: ah ah, he is going to date me, he is going to date me, does he like me, or, ah ah, what should I do, I have nothing to wear…It can be said that your reaction has almost nothing to do with the answer to this question, but only to the other person. As a result, you will naturally be nervous.

Because when you reply to the other party, you hope that you will neither show that you are too excited nor show that you care extra much, but also make the other party like you more and value this “date” more.It’s just who can make the brain respond to a perfect reply in an instant, so a miscommunication caused by tension will directly affect your subsequent psychology.

What’s more important is that sometimes you don’t need to communicate with the other person. Even if you just see that person, your brain will stop functioning and nervousness will become your only reaction.

This is the case with people who are nervous when they see you. If they seem too dull, respond too slowly, and hesitate to speak, you can think that they like you.

Only true heartbeat can change a person, especially when that person will only be like this in front of you.  

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