There is an old saying that “silence is golden”. Sometimes the solution to a problem is not to argue, but to say nothing. Although it takes a lot of energy to hold back and sometimes to force your emotions down, it can give you the upper hand.
1. There is no need to respond to insults. If you are facing the other party’s baseless and unreasonable insults, then keeping silent can make you stand on the moral high ground, and scolding them back will hurt both sides. It hurts inside when insulted, but if you don’t have a more constructive answer at this point, silence is the best thing to do. On the one hand, you control yourself not to insult and fight back, and keep your bottom line; on the other hand, silence is very lethal to the other party, forcing them to consider whether they are indecent. If it’s a face-to-face situation, silence doesn’t mean doing nothing. You can express your attitude by sighing, shrugging, rolling your eyes, shaking your head, etc., rather than confrontation.
2. The other person may not want to hear it. Everyone has an urge to speak up, and if you’re in a situation where most people are arguing and giving advice, you may benefit more from being silent. First, in this environment, most people don’t really care what others say, they just want to express their own views, and silence gives you a chance to listen carefully and understand others; second, interrupting others and joining arguments may provoke yourself There will be more trouble or hostility; third, when everyone is chatting, they suddenly notice that you haven’t spoken for a long time, and they will take the initiative to ask your opinion, which is more important than rushing to talk.
3. Think twice before you act. If you don’t have a clear understanding of a thing, it’s better to say nothing than to be silly or say the wrong thing. In a one-on-one conversation, being silent without knowing how to respond can really make the scene awkward, but it’s better than impulsive words that are inappropriate. A brief silence may let the other party know that the topic is inappropriate at this time. And if there are many people, there is no need to respond immediately to something you don’t understand, let others speak first, and then speak after thinking for yourself.
4. Sometimes being silent is a kind of consideration. One of the most basic human needs is to be understood, and the best way to understand someone is to listen to them. You may not need your opinion to seek help from your relatives and friends. You just want someone to listen to their complaints, release their emotions, and express their true feelings. At this time, you only need to listen patiently, make eye contact, and nod your head in response. No words are needed, it is a very warm support and support. Considerate.
5. Have a deterrent. There is great energy hidden in the silence in the quarrel and the clamor. Imagine that your family members who often care about you and make you feel a little annoyed will not ask you about it for a while, will you also be suspicious and nervous? So, when it comes to persuading others, showing attitude, and bargaining, a moderate amount of silence can put pressure on the other side and give you leverage in “negotiations.” In the workplace or in life, cherishing words like gold is more popular and deterrent. They know that they don’t have to respond to everything, as long as they grasp the “lifeblood”, they can control the situation.
6. Reduce damage. Silence is also a way to control emotions. If you don’t want to let the quarrel continue, and you don’t want to say hurtful words because of a temporary temper, then silence, turning away from the “battlefield” can stop the loss in time, and it is better to have a rational dialogue after the mood calms down.
