Don’t put too much education in fun

Today’s parents attach great importance to their children’s extra-curricular education, and some overemphasize the effectiveness of this second classroom, and even rely on children’s extracurricular activities for education or inspiration. I have such a female colleague. When she took her child to the suburbs on Sunday, the mother was very good at using all opportunities to instill knowledge in the child. Seeing that the child was interested in a group of ducks in the stream, he came up with a sentence: “Three or two peach blossoms outside the bamboo, the spring river plumbing duck prophet” mean? I found that the child was fascinated by a plum blossom, and then asked, “Count the number of plums in the corner, Ling Han opened alone. It is not snow, it is known that there is a dark fragrance.” Whose verse? While the child was thinking hard, the duck had already swam far away, and the plum blossoms left us behind, but the child did not see anything. We persuaded her to say, “Let the child have a good time playing, don’t embarrass him too much.” But she said, “I can’t let my child be so desolate all day long. Go back and let him write a composition. This is called Yujia What a pleasure! ”

In fact, entertaining is to let children learn a lot in the entertainment. After the child completes the classroom learning tasks, most of the time should be play. Play is a necessary lesson for children to contact the society, understand the world, and acquire life skills. Letting children learn observation and knowledge while playing is an effective way for children to accumulate experience and improve their minds. However, once play has become the homework prescribed by parents for their children and the carrier of forced indoctrination, that kind of play is not pure and happy play, and children are bound to lose fun. Childhood is an important stage for children to grow up. From the perspective of their physical and psychological development, children should not bear too much physical and mental stress too much, but should play more. Parents can gradually develop their interests, hobbies, and willpower during play. And other non-intelligent factors. You should not let your children be in the so-called entertaining and learning state all the time, if you let your children play with utilitarianism and purpose, if the children are not even satisfied when playing, It may cause personality defects and psychological deviation.

Playing is an indispensable psychological need for children. Some psychologists believe that children’s poor language ability, lack of concentration, emotional loss of control, and short academic life are all related to sensory integration disorders. In simple terms, they don’t play enough. Looking back on our childhood, children at that time were more likely to play: Barefoot Shimoda catching fish and shrimps, barebacks catching butterflies and picking flowers, Tibetan cats playing under the forest slopes, hegemony on the straw piles, and so on, etc., and no parents In our ears we chatter and ask us to think of something. But we learned friendship, learned to get along, enjoyed success, and experienced failure in simple play; learned to abide by rules, respect honor, and respect others in play; playing also made us agile, flexible, and vivacious. Didn’t Mr. Lu Xun’s “From Baicaoyuan to Sanwei Bookstore” have a deep understanding of childhood life? That colorful Baicao Garden play not only makes him childlike, but also “knows the name of birds and animals”.

It is difficult to raise a Maxima in front of the court. The child who does not play, his sky is talking secretly, the child who bears heavy play, his psychology is depressed. If the child’s play must also act according to the requirements of adults, it will inevitably constrain the child’s hands and feet and suppress the development of personality. Wouldn’t the innocent and lively child become a rigid “little old man”, the consequences would be unthinkable.