“Intimate room” between husband and wife

 If it were not for this time with the people of the whole country, to be “sullied” at home to prevent the spread of the new crown virus, Li Gui might not be able to grasp it in another 20 years. What is the reason why her marriage with Wang Jian has stumbled over the past 20 years?
  Before, Li Gui spent a lot of time transforming Wang Jian. She insisted that Wang Jian get up 15 minutes early to eat a beautiful Western breakfast, and asked him to wear a suit and windbreaker instead of the programmer’s standard-black down jacket-to go out and ask him to go to work after a fitness shower in the morning instead of In the evening, I returned with a sweat from the gym. She asked him to wash his socks at night instead of five or six days, and specially opened a washing machine for washing socks, and asked him to use fragrance body milk after bathing. She asked him to punch in the online educational mini-program that recites words with him every day, asked him not to be outspoken at the department meetings but to hide his temper, and asked him to post in the company group that he was still working overtime late at night, and the weekends were still there. Working on the project, the screenshots and thoughts of the remote meeting with the American customer in the early morning, asked him not to just focus on pulling the car, but also need to look up at the road and perform well.
  In response, Wang Jian protested many times. Especially after his son went to the United States to study at the age of 18, Li Gui’s control of Wang Jian became more detailed and impenetrable. Wang Jian has been trying to communicate with him: “Clothing, food, housing, travel, and getting along with people. Do you let me decide for myself? Son? They are all grown-ups, and it ’s okay for her husband to be a grown-up? Why do you, a wife, put your motherhood on your husband? Why do you transform me according to your own ideal model, and often reprimand me from my mother-in-law and girlfriends Everything needs human care, is it a giant baby? ”
  Li Guigang was stunned, Wang Jian chased after victory:” Look at you, and also imposed the set of rules of handling in your workplace on me. You are a big state-owned enterprise doing administration and balancing. The performance may be the way of progress in your mind. I am an Internet private company doing technology. In our business, we work hard every day to work overtime, which is an EQ behavior. We are all responsible for the project progress bar. You You can tighten the front and then loose, or you can loosen the front and back, as long as you keep the quality and quantity to make things. In our line, even if you are wearing pajamas As long as you do out of the project convinced people, all the people will forgive you lazy, arrogant. ”
  Wang Jian’s reasoning was that 70% to 80% of Li Gui was listening. However, it is difficult to change his habits. His son is already far away from the ocean. You call a Virgo housewife who does not care about her husband. Who cares? Wang Jian couldn’t help it, and he almost reached a “site exchange agreement” with his wife-every weekend, Li Gui rested at home and Wang Jian went to the office to work overtime.
  After the outbreak, both people have to stay at home, what can we do? Wang Jian proposed: Since the sense of the boundary between adults is our way of living in harmony, let ’s be a university roommate during this epidemic prevention period. Before you take care of me, take a few seconds to think about it: “If Wang Jian I ’m a roommate. I ’ll take care of him like this. Will he bother me? ”
  This method is really simple and easy. Two people just do it and move their computers to the main bedroom and the second bedroom. The decoration style is warm. The main bedroom door is affixed with a label-“Girls ‘Six Houses”, and the decorating style is tough and the secondary bedroom door is affixed with a label-“boys’ Eight Houses”. The two agreed on the main scope of their work and life. When they entered each other ’s site, they had to knock on the door; in order to prevent the two from arguing as soon as they cooked, Li Gui took out his separate storage box, even the storage space in the refrigerator was divided into “Male left female right”. The two shopped on Hema and RT-Mart respectively. In a short time, the courier brother sent them to the door, and they could see that the “Taste style” and “Western style” in the refrigerator are distinct and unique. The left side of the refrigerator stores all kinds of quick-frozen pasta, coriander leeks, apples and oranges, while the right side is filled with coffee beans, toast bread, butter cheese, asparagus broccoli, and various rare and extremely perishable rare berries.
  Every time Wang Jian opened the refrigerator door, he also wanted to educate Li Gui— “Look at you, since the company was sent to the UK for half a year, it has become so low-hearted. For Chinese stomachs, cold bread How can there be a bowl of hot beef noodles with cheese to warm your stomach? If I take out a rock candy apple, I can defeat all of your strange fruit. “But, with a little thought, would he fuck this kind of college roommate? Strange heart? will not! So he quickly swallowed all the preaching.
  It did n’t take long for the two to realize the benefits of “intimacy”, Li Gui no longer begged Wang Jian to sleep early and wake up as much as she did, and no longer criticized him for wearing video pajamas to participate in video conferences, nor would there be an outbreak of Wang Jian ’s occupational disease. , Must write a remote control program for the smart home appliances and smart curtains at home and ridicule. She thought of the duty of a university roommate-as a girl, if your roommate is willing to write a program for you, you can remotely control your refrigerator and send all the refrigerator inventory to your mobile phone, allowing you to decisively withdraw some It is not a thankful thing to move into the shopping plan of the shopping cart to reduce waste.
  In return, Wang Jian no longer ridiculed Li Gui about taking photos of her breakfast every day, but also to garnish a slice of bread and an orange with beautiful tableware, books and a beautiful background. After all, it ’s also a lifestyle interest for people to add toasts to the toasts, not to mention, the popular coffee on the husk has also done research and believes that the same toasted bread is placed in a white porcelain dish, and its aroma and coke Crisp, it is indeed more than 20% lower than that placed on antique paper towels. This is the subtle effect of vision on the smell and taste system. Taking a step back to the sea and the sky, Wang Jian let Li Gui’s picture-editing breakfast and her self-made selfies with a full makeup look off, and let go of her harsh requirements of “no lunch” every weekend. Naturally, he also never used Li Gui later The treadmill at home was relieved.
  That’s right, when you believe in keeping your body healthy and full of inspiration, need to eat hot Chinese food, drink hot tea, and exercise a sweat every day, can you give a step away and realize that for another part of the world, health The source of this is precisely to eat cold western food, drink bitter and haha ​​coffee, and meditate on yoga videos every day? He also found that since the beginning of doing yoga at home and closing the door, Li Gui’s confusion and anxiety have been greatly relieved. Wang Jian carried her back and looked at the psychological effects of yoga music. Sure enough, the experts said in a nutshell: yoga soundtrack collects a lot of sounds from nature, the sound of wind blowing leaves, the dripping of caves, the sound of the waves patting, and the sound of seagulls , Which contains a 1 / f rhythm, which is consistent with the internal rhythm of the human body, which will make us feel relaxed, soothed and happy. Since running hurts his wife and yoga makes her happy, why can’t she come by her temperament?
  Since the essence of marriage is to make people get rid of most of the precautions and to be themselves in the face of another person, why do most of us arbitrarily demand that the other party must act in accordance with their ideal mode? If we all admit that the other party is a mature adult, not a giant baby, and do not need to care and worry about our own affairs, we will naturally respect each other’s choices and be vigilant about our impulse to manage across the border.
  Li Gui also has such a basic awareness of Wang Jian today. Although she has always been full of resistance to non-fresh coffee, especially the smell of creamer unique to the three-in-one instant coffee, Wang Jian has a long video conference. When sending WeChat to ask her to “help me, send a cup of coffee in”, Li Gui still quickly sent instant coffee in. Wang Jian quickly sat up and said to his brothers, “Come and say hello to your sister-in-law, and when this epidemic has completely passed, you come to my house to have a good coffee. Your sister-in-law makes caramel macchiato, mocha, and take Iron’s craftsmanship is definitely stronger than any coffee shop. ”
  Li Gui quickly waved at the camera, his face mixed with pride, restraint and embarrassment of” listening to his bragging. ” She took a closer look. Sure enough, in the existing 9 video shots, both men and women were wearing plaid pyjamas, boys had hairstyles like birdhouses, and the only girl had no time to dress up, but actually put on a pink hair band, which was on display With a pair of rabbit ears. She smiled and quietly covered the door to go out, and she suddenly felt: Originally, Wang Jian always emphasized that most of the people who work hard for creativity are like scientists who do n’t trim their borders, and they will never replace slippers with leather shoes without their turn to release new products on stage. It’s true.