Activate the sleeping power in life

Teacher Chen has always given people the impression of being optimistic, cheerful, full of energy, active and hardworking, and loved by students. However, during the online teaching stage of the epidemic, she no longer smiled and looked haggard.

After receiving the task of online class, Mr. Chen felt that his brain was blank, and he was nervous, always worried about making mistakes or not operating the program to cause teaching accidents. “What kind of activities can be carried out by live broadcast?” In the usual classroom, you can discuss in groups, write on the blackboard, you can patrol, and you can knock on the blackboard; but now everything is unknown. How to smoothly complete the teaching content, how to ensure students’ concentration, how to improve classroom interaction…a series of practical problems bothered her.

In addition to dealing with new work patterns, family problems that have existed before have become increasingly prominent. Faced with all kinds of problems in the family, the husband’s choice is to stay away from the family and be busy with work all day long. He is indifferent to family affairs. Parents-in-law and mother-in-law quarrel constantly. Children also have to take online lessons every day. When tutoring homework, as soon as I picked up the mobile phone, there were countless messages from parents and students. The information prompt “dididi” seemed to be uninterrupted 24 hours a day, and the whole person felt upset when they saw the mobile phone. The epidemic is serious and there are fewer opportunities to go out to breathe. The family of five stayed at home like this, which made her feel that she did not even have a chance to breathe, and even made her lose confidence in life.

The challenges and psychological impact that Teacher Chen faces are very typical. Fortunately, she knows how to seek help from the psychological teacher in time. Teachers have to adapt to the new teaching methods and assist parents in establishing new home-school communication. They also have to deal with the conflicts and conflicts of the narrowing of the family’s psychological space, as well as the family’s daily life and the education of their children. Facing these pressures, teachers How to debug it?

◢ Acknowledge imperfection,
Reconcile with your negative emotions
Teachers should first learn to recognize and perceive their emotions. Under special circumstances, it is normal for complex emotions to be generated due to many changes and uncertainties. Only by acknowledging them and seeing them can we better accept them and get along well with these emotions.

In all aspects of life, study, work, and family, the negative emotions that arise because of their inability to cope with them often originate from a disapproval of their imperfections.

Acknowledge that you are a “novice” in online teaching, that this is the first time you have dealt with such a tricky and new way of working, and that you are not omnipotent. This recognition itself is also a kind of courage and strength, which can inspire us to continuously improve ourselves while maintaining our own state.

Teachers need to find an outlet for their emotions. This outlet can be a healthy and regular hobby—reading, listening to music, watching movies, painting, doing handicrafts, sports, etc., or it can be a time of solitude that belongs to you. Anything you are interested in can relax your body and mind. Anyone’s behavior can be a haven for emotional resettlement.

◢ Seek connections and establish a social support system
Teachers must learn to build a good social support system for themselves. One of the important strategies is to ensure that they have multiple channels of communication.

Many times, we think that confiding our heart will burden others, so we are used to “digesting” our anxiety, confusion, and anxiety. But in fact, communication is a process that allows each other to gain support and harvest energy.

First, communicate with family members. Listening to each other between relatives and friends can ease their anxiety. Secondly, communicate with colleagues and colleagues. Strengthen online teaching and research activities, and conduct more technical and subject group teaching exchanges, so as to relieve pressure while improving ability and promoting each other. Third, communicating with different friends around us and feeling the difficulties in all walks of life make us feel that there is a powerful force supporting us and we do not exist alone.

◢ LEAD tool,
Improve inverse quotient and empower yourself
I have observed that some teachers are better able to deal with the difficulties in life and teaching, while some teachers are less able to deal with difficulties. Why?

Susanna Olet, a psychology professor at the City University of New York, has spent more than 20 years studying the human traits that make this difference. She calls it resilience, which refers to a person’s ability to endure hardship. The stronger the resilience, the smaller the negative impact of adversity, and the smaller the possibility of personal anxiety and depression, which reminds us that it is particularly important to improve adversity quotient.

The famous American psychologist Paul Storz proposed that inverse quotient is composed of four dimensions of CORE, namely Control (sense of control), Ownership (responsibility), Reach (influence), and Endurance (sustainability). Dimensions determine a person’s adverse quotient.

In order to improve the adversity quotient, Paul Storz proposed the “LEAD tool”, namely Listen, to listen to your own adversity response; Explore, to explore your own responsibility for the results; Analyze, to analyze the evidence; Do, to do something. In the war against the “epidemic”, facing the psychological problems of some teachers, I have used these four steps to inspire them, improve their anxiety, improve their ability to cope with adversity, that is, increase adversity quotient, the effect is very significant.

The teacher Chen mentioned above asked me for help, and I used LEAD tools to help her improve her adverse quotient. I first performed the L step, listened to her description of the above dilemma, and understood her mental state at this time. Then proceed to step E. I asked her, what are the possible consequences of her dilemma? She replied that her work would be affected, and it might lead to dissatisfaction from leaders, parents, and students. It would also cause family conflicts and affect children. So what should we do to avoid these consequences? This will transition to step A, and explore coping strategies with her, such as: reducing the number of times you look at the phone, no need to stare at the phone from time to time, you can reply to other people’s information periodically; communicate openly with your family, especially the husband away from the family, and work together It is not your responsibility to make the whole family healthy and functioning; set up your own independent psychological space, such as agreeing with your family on a regular time for yourself, etc., and put these coping methods into practice, namely Step D. Through this method, Mr. Chen said that he was a lot easier. Although the dilemma is very difficult, it is possible to solve it.

Everyone is not just a plane of IQ. IQ, EQ and adverse quotient coexist, which makes us a three-dimensional person.

Defects in adverse quotient not only affect our intelligence, but also inhibit the exploration of our potential, the cultivation of comprehensive ability, and the completion of personality. Therefore, we must pay attention to adversity quotient training, especially in today’s world full of adversity, it is necessary for schools to actively develop educational activities for teachers and students to develop adversity quotient, and to promote them to form good thinking and behavioral responses in the face of adversity.

Life has great potential, and one of them is to rise up in adversity. A person who cannot face adversity is a person who has neglected this potential in life, a person who evades himself intentionally or unintentionally. We should understand that adversity is also a part of life, adversity will not disappear, and avoiding adversity is equivalent to avoiding life.

In the same way, the solution of psychological problems is often not to make the problem disappear, but to make the problem more possible, and we can live with it.

Olison Madden, the founder of American Success Studies, once said: “There are some sleeping forces deep in people’s hearts.” In the face of difficulties, we can still discover infinite possibilities. This is how we face this epidemic. Activated power.