How far are we from evil

Intimacy homicides are inseparable from domestic violence. According to reports, 30% of married women in 270 million households across the country have experienced domestic violence. On average, one woman is beaten by her husband every 7.4 seconds. 157,000 women commit suicide each year, and 60% of them commit suicide because of domestic violence. .

With the two cases of “killing wives late at night” solved, many people began to re-examine intimacy-the distance between us and evil may be closer than we thought.

The person by the pillow hurts the killer, similar murders are not alone

A few days ago, the murderers used similar methods in the “Midnight Wife Murder Cases” in Hangzhou, Zhejiang and Anyue, Sichuan: they took advantage of their wife while she was asleep, and then reported to the police that her wife was missing. According to public reports by the media, the murders caused by emotional problems in marriage are not isolated cases.

On January 5, 2013, it suddenly broke out on the Internet that Wang Jia, known as the “most sincere female guest in history” in the “If You Are the One” column of Jiangsu Satellite TV, had killed her husband; in early June of this year, Zhu Xiaodong, the defendant in the murder of his wife and corpse in Shanghai, was arrested. Execution of the death penalty. After a conflict with his wife at home on October 17, 2016, Zhu Xiaodong killed her and hid it in the balcony freezer at home; in early June of this year, a 25-year-old self-defense officer killed his 31-year-old wife late at night. The police said that he had previously Received 3 consultations about domestic violence from the family…

Women are more vulnerable to intimacy?

In 2018, a UN gender-related murder crime report pointed out that home may be the most dangerous place. Of the 87,000 women killed worldwide in 2017, 58% died at the hands of their loved ones and family members; among the 1.4 million domestic divorce disputes in 2017, domestic violence caused 14.86% of divorce cases, of which 91.43% were male violence.

In recent years, the Women’s Federation system has accepted 50,000 domestic violence disputes each year, and an average of one woman is domestically abused every 7 seconds… A series of figures are sufficient to show that violence in intimate relationships is widespread and frequent.

Intimacy homicides are also inseparable from domestic violence. According to reports, 30% of married women in 270 million households across the country have experienced domestic violence. 157,000 women commit suicide each year, and 60% of them commit suicide because of domestic violence.

Not only women, but a report from Beijing Normal University shows that men believe that domestic violence is more frequent than women, especially psychological violence.

What to do if you encounter violence in an intimate relationship

Intimate relationship violence means that in an intimate relationship, one party takes violent or coercive behavior against the other party to achieve the purpose of controlling the other party, including emotional violence, sexual violence, physical violence, stalking threats, etc.

The common violence in intimate relationships includes: physical violence, verbal violence, economic violence, cold violence, and excessive control. The perpetrator can be a date, a partner. Women who are physically disadvantaged are more likely to be victims of violence that occurs in intimate relationships. So, how to avoid violence and protect yourself effectively?

“The best way is to identify a’domestic violence male’ in the love stage.” said Professor Ding Juan, director and counselor of the Red Maple Women’s Psychological Counseling Service Center. She believes that domestic violence is a structural problem of gender discrimination. To solve such problems, one is to popularize the law and turn domestic violence men into street rats that everyone shouts and beats. At the same time, let women fully understand their dignity and rights, and encourage women to bravely get out of domestic violence; second, strictly enforce the law, effectively warn men with violent desires, regulate their words and actions in accordance with the law, and put an end to violence; third, women must have a sense of crisis. When encountering violence, you must first protect your own life, then find opportunities to actively seek help, and at the same time, pay attention to retaining evidence so that you can strive for greater benefits in divorce.